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Please Stop Asking When I'm Getting Married

"When are YOU getting married?"

This is a question that has begun to haunt me as an unmarried, unengaged woman in a long-term relationship. Well, that and "when are you going to have kids?" But, that's a subject to broach another time.

What do you say to that? It's not as if we've secretly gotten engaged, set a date and haven't told anyone. Responding truthfully with "I don't know" doesn't seem like the right response.

I've learned to brace myself at gatherings and social functions (especially weddings) for this inevitable question. 

Now, I am completely aware that the asker is simply trying to take an interest in my life and that the question is meant in a completely harmless way. I don't take offense to it, I just get asked this A LOT.

You know who doesn't get asked this question...like ever?

My boyfriend.

I recall an event a while back where I fielded this question about half a dozen or more times. On our way home, I asked …